老了，我們已經老了！只不過我們現在身體還好，頭腦清醒，老了，指望誰！要分幾個階段來談。
*第一階段*
退休以後六十歲到七十歲身體比較好，條件也許可。喜歡吃就吃一點，喜歡穿就穿一點，喜歡玩就玩一點。不要再刻薄自己，這種時日不多了，要把握住。錢把住一些，房子留住，把自己的後路退路都安排好。
孩子經濟好是孩子的，孩子孝順是孩子的好品質。我們不拒絕他們的資助，不拒絕他們的孝敬。但還是要依靠自己，安排好自己生活。
*第二階段*
七十歲過了沒災沒病的，生活還能自理，這沒有太大的問題，但要知道這是真老了，慢慢地體力精力都會不行的，反應也會越來越差，吃飯要慢——防噎，走路要慢——防跌。不能再逞強，要照顧自己啦！不要再去管這管那，管兒管女，有的還去管第三代，管了一輩子，該自私一點，管管自己啦,一切都要悠閒著點，幫助打掃打掃，把自己的健康的狀態保持得儘量的長一點。給自己能夠自主生活的時間儘量的長一些，不求人的日子總好過。
*第三階段*
身體不好了，要求人啦！這一定要有所準備，絕大多數人都逃不過這一關。心情要調整好，要適應。生老病死人生常態坦然對待。這是人生最後一段沒有什麼好怕，早有準備就不會太難過。或是進養老院，或是用人居家養老，量力而行，酌情而辦，總會有辦法，原則就是不要磨子女，不要給子女心理，家務，經濟添加太多的負擔。自己多克服一些，我們這一代人什麼苦什麼難都經過，相信我們人生最後的旅程也會坦然度過。
*第四階段*
自己頭腦清醒，身體疾病纏身無法治癒生活品質極差時，要敢於面對死亡、堅決不要家人再搶救，不要親友做無謂的浪費。「老了」指望誰？ 自己，自己，還是自己。
【老了怎麼辦】
為什麼有這樣的想法，因為我一直認為，80歲以上的老人，不需要限制他們食物清淡,不必減重，吃的下比較重要，愛吃什麼就吃什麼，可以吃到自己認為的人間美味，讓自己活得更快樂一些。限制老人不能做這吃那，是違反人性的，也沒有任何科學根據的。
事實上，越來越多科學證據顯示，老人要吃好一點，吃胖一點，讓他具有多一點對抗疾病，對抗憂鬱情緒的能力。我願，每個老人都可以享受自己美好的最後一段人生，不要留下任何遺憾。
結語：
俗語說的好「有理財就不窮、有計畫就不亂、有準備就不忙」，身為老人預備軍的我們，是否做好準備了？只要事先做好準備，日後就無須憂心老後生活。
要準備的第一件事就是能老健，平時就要注重三養：吃得營養、注重保養、要有修養。
第二是老居：與其和兒孫同住，過著忍氣吞聲的生活，不如獨自享受單身之樂，無論都會 或郊區，住最適合自己的地方。附近有你喜歡的餐廳！
第三是老本，既然養兒已無法養老，為人父母的也只能自立自強了，老本一定要保得好，不進棺材前ㄧ定不分家產。
第四是老友：有個好朋友、好飯友和伴侶一樣重要，平時要廣結善緣，多認識各類朋友，是享受生活的一項祕訣。
總之，不管你是長壽的歐吉桑或歐巴桑，到最後都是一個人，這句話ㄧ點也不悲涼，也不可怕，全看你如何安排生活，全看你有沒有成熟的心理，喜歡就值得去做。遇到好康的或是幸福的事，可別總是期待留給下一代。
老朋友們切記！我們注定是孝順父母的最後一代，被兒女拋棄的第一代，千萬不要“人在天堂，錢在銀行”，什麼「一個人很寂寞」、「老了沒人照顧」等種種負面訊息，早已是過時的說法。
要認清： 財富只是數字問題，名利只是短暫虛榮，生活才是人生的全部，當個「樂在享受單身暮年」的人，人生就有如再度染上春天的色彩，條件是：身體強健，有錢、有閒、有朋友，並且有自己專屬的空間。
能夠獨立自主，自得其樂的人生，相信也是自己給自己最大的功德。
(08/03/14)
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Reality Talks Among The Elderly
Keep your home nest till you pass away, maintain good relationship with your partner and enjoy life with happy attitude.
We are getting older each day had lapsed, however, at this moment, we are still healthy and thoughtful, so let's talk about in stages on the topic how are we going to rely upon.
The first stage
You have a reasonable health and financial condition in the ages between sixty and seventy after retirement, so eat well, dress nicely, act happily, and grasp hold of the time that soon be running out that still remains. Do not treat yourself meanly, manage your wealth, your property, and plan your future correctly instead.
The assets that your children gained or acquired and filial obedience that they had devoted are of their own, we must take control ourselves and organize our own life, although, it doesn't mean that we should refuse any honor in financial help from them or turn down their moral character.
The second stage
If your health is still in good shape, have not had any health issues or illness when you turn seventy, then it won’t raise any concern in dealing with your own daily living, however, your body lose physical strength and energy as time goes by, thus worsen your reaction, reflecting in eating slower to prevent choking, walking slower to prevent falling, you now need to pay more attention to yourself rather than showing up your superiority.
Stop getting involved in any matter that related to your children or grand-children who are generations away or struggle to possess anything unnecessary, as it is not realistic, now it is right time to switch to manage your own and be a bit selfish. Be prepared for a relaxing livelihood, and limit your activities to light duties work at home, this helps to maintain your health condition longer, in which, you are able to make your own decision, to live independently and not relying on other people.
The third stage
Something has gone wrong to the function of your body, you start to get ill and need helps from others, basically, it is hard to escape this type of situation during the last sections in your lifespan, so take it and adjust the mood to adapt and suit. Birth, Senility, Illness and Death are chronically filled in the law of natural life, if you had already treat them in calm without fear, depending on your capability and condition, whether admitting to a nursing home, or requesting a care person for home minding as appropriate, there always be a solution and you won’t feel too sad as they come along, at the end of the day, we avoid to load a burden on our children in any psychological, physical, financial aspect, and always be ready to solve it by yourself. We, of the same generation, all had suffered and experienced the abnormality and hardship in life when we were young, therefore, we would expect to solve and get over smoothly for the rest of our life.
The fourth stage
You have a sober-mind, but your health was seriously affected and the quality of life also downgraded due to unrecoverable illnesses or diseases, now you must be brave to face death, also make a solid determination of not to be salvaged, thus avoiding your relatives to bear the medication cost unnecessary. Whom do you rely upon when you are old? The answer is you and by your own.
What to do when you are old
Why we are bringing up this topic? I always believe that for the elderly over 80 years of age, there is no need for them to diet in order to lose weight, conversely, it is an advantage to gain nutrient from meals, as much as they prefer to be delicacies, then they will live more happier. There is no scientific proof that any advantage is achieved in cutting down meals intake in the elderly, this also violates human's nature.
In fact, for the elderly group, there is increase of scientific evidences support the needs of absorbing more nutrients from foods or meals, so they are healthier, in return, having the ability to fight against disease and depression. I wish every elderly were able to enjoy his last steps in life without any regrets.
Conclusion:
We have an old saying, "Be managed to avoid poor, be planned to avoid mess and be prepared to avoid rush", so during the time leading into old age, are we ready to get in a group of elderly? If we set them up in advance, we should not have to worry about our life style in near future.
The first thing is getting ready to maintain a healthy body, pay regular attention to the following, nutritious intake, self-care and self-possession.
The second is own residence, instead of board and lodging in your children or grand-children home, you may have to "Grin and bear it" to live, it would be better to live by yourself, choose the one most suitable, either downtown or suburban, within the vicinity of your favorite restaurant.
The third is assets, since pension is unable to be funded by your children, parents can only be self-reliance, so don't give away your assets to them until the end of your life, and keep it safely.
The fourth is old friend, having a good friend for gathering is as important as having a good partner, be very nice to people, establishing various kinds of friendship is the secret of enjoying life.
In short, whether you live longevity as an old Ojisan or Obasan (Old man or Old lady in Japanese), you still end up by yourself, this is not a frightening nor depressing statement, it all depends on the worth of proceeding your life arrangement and have acquired a matured mind. Do not always look forward to reserve matter giving to next generation that you deem good or lucky.
Please remember, we destined to be the last generation retaining filial piety, but the first generation getting abandoned by children, never take influence by negative emotion like "You end up in heaven but your money left behind in bank", "What a lonely fellow?" or "No one care about you when old", these are outdated.
We must recognize that "Wealth is just about numbers, fame fulfills vanity temporary, only livelihood forms whole part of life". Be an old single, happy life enjoyable person, your life will accumulate the vibrant color of spring season, and the requirement is simple, good health, money to spend, have time for leisure with close friends and your own dedicated space.
Able to enjoy life independently, is the greatest merits and virtues we gain for ourselves.
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